Berea Middle School Guidance - The Middle School Child

Middle graders often feel unhappy with their looks, worry about their popularity, and feel unsure of their abilities.  In spite of feeling sad, anxious, or depressed, adolescents rarely seek help from parents or adults. Why? Studies show they don't think grown-ups take their problems seriously. If your child seems troubled, try some of these suggestions:

• Take them seriously- The problems middle graders face seem as big and as stressful to them as yours are to you. Let your child know you understand and believe he is capable of finding a solution with your help, if he wants it.
• Reach out- Find a quiet time to show your concern.  "When I was your age, I worried about so many things. How are things going for you?"
• Boost their self-confidence- Two-thirds of kids who feel depressed say the main reasons are not feeling good about themselves and loneliness. Encourage group activities that use your child's strengths and talents.
• Provide distractions- Plan activities your middle grader enjoys-a movie, a ball game, or a new haircut.  The idea is to get him out of the house so he can think about something besides his troubles.
• Your middle grader needs to know that even though feeling down is a part of life, you're there to help any way you can.

Taken from Middle Years.  Resources for Educators, Inc.